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8 wedding readings to inspire your ceremony

02.12.18

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Structuring a wedding ceremony and making it feel personal can be difficult. One way to make it feel special is to have a reading of a poem, song lyric, hymn or passage that you both love, and which has a message that is meaningful to you. I’ve compiled a list of 8 romantic wedding readings that I love and am thinking about incorporating one or two into our ceremony. My absolute favourite is “Love” by Roy Croft. 

01. “The Art of Marriage” by Wilferd A. Peterson

A good marriage must be created.
In the art of marriage the little things are the big things…
It is never being too old to hold hands.
It is remembering to say “I love you” at least once a day.
It is never going to sleep angry.
It is at no time taking the other for granted;
the courtship should not end with the honeymoon,
it should continue through all the years.
It is having a mutual sense of values and common objectives.
It is standing together facing the world.
It is forming a circle of love that gathers in the whole family.
It is doing things for each other, not in the attitude
of duty or sacrifice, but in the spirit of joy.
It is speaking words of appreciation
and demonstrating gratitude in thoughtful ways.
It is not looking for perfection in each other.
It is cultivating flexibility, patience,
understanding and a sense of humor.
It is having the capacity to forgive and forget.
It is giving each other an atmosphere in which each can grow.
It is finding room for the things of the spirit.
It is a common search for the good and the beautiful.
It is establishing a relationship in which the independence is equal,
dependence is mutual and the obligation is reciprocal.
It is not only marrying the right partner, it is being the right partner.
It is discovering what marriage can be, at its best.

02. “Love” by Roy Croft 

I love you,
Not only for what you are,
But for what I am
When I am with you.

I love you,
Not only for what
You have made of yourself,
But for what
You are making of me.

I love you
For the part of me
That you bring out;
I love you
For putting your hand
Into my heaped-up heart
And passing over
All the foolish, weak things
That you can’t help
Dimly seeing there,
And for drawing out
Into the light
All the beautiful belongings
That no one else had looked
Quite far enough to find.

I love you because you
Are helping me to make
Of the lumber of my life
Not a tavern
But a temple;
Out of the works
Of my every day
Not a reproach
But a song.

I love you
Because you have done
More than any creed
Could have done
To make me good,
And more than any fate
To make me happy.

You have done it
Without a touch,
Without a word,
Without a sign.
You have done it
By being yourself.

03. “Blessing for a Marriage” by James Dillet Freeman

 

May your marriage bring you all the exquisite excitements a marriage
should bring, and may life grant you also patience, tolerance, and
understanding.
May you always need one another – not so much to fill your emptiness
as to help you to know your fullness. A mountain needs a valley to
be complete; the valley does not make the mountain less, but
more; and the valley is more a valley because it has a mountain
towering over it. So let it be with you and you.
May you need one another, but not out of weakness.
May you want one another, but not out of lack.
May you entice one another, but not compel one another.
May you embrace one another, but not out encircle one another.
May you succeed in all important ways with one another, and not fail
in the little graces.
May you look for things to praise, often say, “I love you!” and take no
notice of small faults.
If you have quarrels that push you apart, may both of you hope to have
good sense enough to take the first step back.
May you enter into the mystery which is the awareness of one
another’s presence – no more physical than spiritual, warm and
near when you are side by side, and warm and near when you are
in separate rooms or even distant cities.
May you have happiness, and may you find it making one another
happy.
May you have love, and may you find it loving one another.

04. From “The Gift” by Hafiz

Even
After
All this time
The Sun never says to the Earth,
‘You owe me.’
Look
What happens
With a love like that,
It lights the whole sky.

05. “A Simile Like Love, A Metaphor Is Love” by Allen Steble

(love is like)
Love is like a painting
filled with all colours and shades
love is like a bleeding heart
cut with many sharp blades
love is like a never ending story
that always begins with a kiss
love is like a space everlasting
that fills bitterness with bliss
love is like the circle of eternity
always there to take for free

(love is)
Love is an open clear pool
where no hate can dare swim
love is a captured sunset
where the warmth never grows dim
love is desire held in the eye
that spreads quickly to the heart
love is a black starry night sky
a metaphor of glorious art
love is a deep dark hole of mystery
always there to take free

06. “Carrie’s Poem” – Sex and the City

His hello was the end of her endings
Her laugh was their first step down the aisle
His hand would be hers to hold forever
His forever was as simple as her smile
He said she was what was missing
She said instantly she knew
She was a question to be answered
And his answer was “I do”

07. “I promise you” by Nicole Dominique

I can’t promise you
That dark clouds
Will never hover
Over our lives Or that the future
Will bring us many rainbows .
I can’t promise you that
Tomorrow will be perfect
Or that our lives will be easy.
I can promise you my everlasting
Devotion, my loyalty, my respect,
And my unconditional love for a lifetime .
I can promise you that
I’ll always be here for you,
To listen and to hold your hand,
And I’ll do my best to make you happy,
And make you feel loved.
I can promise you that
I can see you through a crisis
And pray with you,
Dream with you,
Build with you,
And always cheer you on
And encourage you.
I can promise you that
I’ll willingly be your protector,
Your advisor, your counselor,
Your friend, your family,
Your everything.
I promise you

08. From “The Chaos of Stars” by Kiersten White

And I’d choose you;
in a hundred different lifetimes,
in a hundred worlds,
in any version of reality,
I’d find you and
I’d choose you.   


Have you picked any readings for your wedding, or heard any great ones at a wedding you’ve attended? Let me know in the comments below.

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